'That's not up for discussion or negotiation': Baby daddy's pregnant new wife demands ex-wife get rid of the 2 kittens she gifted her daughter because of her allergies, claiming that it's bad for the baby

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Blake Seidel • Managing Editor & Brand Manager
Jun 23, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Oh, boy. Another case of someone with cat allergies making it everyone else's problem. We're pawsitively tired of this. One of the things we dislike the most is when people bring politics into their pets' lives. The cats didn't do anything wrong in this scenario, so why should they be the ones to face the consequences? There are so many solutions to allergies in this day and age that, in our purrsonal opinion, there is no excuse for letting them affect the lives of others. Or even yours, for that matter!

The mom in this story wanted to do a nice thing for her feline-obsessed daughter, and got her 2 kittens. But, as soon as her ex-husband's new wife got pregnant, her "allergies" spiked up and she demanded that the mom get rid of the two kittens, even though the kittens and the new wife will never be in direct contact. We think it's ridiculous, but they keep pressuring her to get rid of them. What would you do? Read through the full thread below!

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    "I'm not living my life or setting up my household based on your wife's needs."
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    I (24F) have recently got new cats. My daughter (6) has always wanted cats and she has an obsession with them and frequently says "all I want in this world are cats". However baby daddy's (25) new wife (25) is
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    "deathly allergic" to cats and has been to the hospital once for it. I have multiple friends with cats and my daughter is frequently around them and plays with them then goes over to baby daddy and wife's house and there has never been a complaint of allergies.
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    I was told by wife that she would start taking allergy shots and would be good to go in around a months time. I found the PERFECT cat sibling pair from an adoption agency in my area (Adopt don't shop<3) and with the info on it being about a
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  • That's right! Adopt, don't shop. There are so many kitties out there in the shelters just wishing for some hooman to scoop them up and take them into their loving home. And, in our opinion, the shelter ones are always the sweetest.

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    month I had a friend agree to watch them in the transition period and would take caution in giving baths changing clothes etc. if my daughter did see the cats. Well yesterday I let them know that she had come in contact with the cats briefly but
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    she was bathed and put in freshly washed clothes that had not been in the same house as them. I was told to still take her over to her grandparents house for another rinse off and change of clothes just in case. After dropping her off I received a call
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    from baby daddy where he told me his wife could no longer get the shots since they just found out shes pregnant so he would like the cats rehomed or returned to the adoption agency My biggest concern is for my daughter and I genuinely believe
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    if the cats were taken from her permanently it would be traumatic for how long and how badly she's wanted them. Not to mention the resent in her it would cause towards the wife and new baby AND that's just a horrible thing to do after giving a
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    pet a new home after being rescues. Also I would be effectively blacklisted from all rescues and agencies if I were to do that and rightly so. I ended up getting another call the day after saying they were in the ER for hours and spent a bunch of
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    money for the visit and the cats need to be rehomed. But like I said before, my daughter has been around cats many times and gone over there and there's never been an issue and I find it hard to believe after two baths and clothes changes that it truly
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    caused such a bad reaction that the hospital is necessary. It's also important to note that the three of us have not always gotten along especially since the wife was my best friend for awhile before I found out she got with him so we were on very bad
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    terms for a very long time so I find it hard to give up something me and my daughter have been so excited and I've worked so hard to get to a place where we can get them only to be told we can't because of their decision to have a new baby.
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    so they're still asking the cats be given back or rehomed and making me feel like I'm the bad guy. Am I the a h le?
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    Also edit to add they were both aware for a long time the end plan was to get cats asap that's why she was going to start the shots they were not blindsided by this plan and I told the wife when I got them and it was fine before they found out about the pregnancy
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    Edit #2 since for some reason I have to preface this, this was NOT in retaliation or out of spite or anything in that way towards wife. We just moved to a place that can have cats we couldn't at previous place and I have been wanting cats since before I even
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  • If her allergies really were that bad, the mom would be a terrible purrson if she did it on purpose. Like, really bad. We like to think that no one would make that choice on their own, as we like to think that people are generally good.

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    knew the dad in high school. I do not think about them when I'm not directly speaking to them so adopting cats was purely for the joy of me and my daughter not to cause problems. And again they knew this was happening and there were no issues and cats
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    were adopted and they were informed they were BEFORE finding out she was pregnant and the plan was fine then so it was not me trying to make life harder for wife.
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    Upbe... 1d ago Edited 20h ago Do not give up the cats. I feel a bath and a change of clothes and no transfer from house To house to house should be Fine. I just don't understand can she not sit in a booth at a restaurant if someone before her has a cat and sat there even if the clean the booth?
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    Cool_Relative7359 · 1d ago NTA "I'm not living my life or setting up my household based on your wife's needs. That's yours to figure out. The cats are staying, that's not up for discussion or negotiation. Good
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    luck finding a way to handle her allergy, because if it's that bad I'm not sure how she leaves the house with all the outdoor cats, and cat hair and dandruff on people who have cats in public.
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    Regardless, her health and her allergies are not my responsibility nor am I interested in changing how / live in my home, for someone I'm not even friends with. The cats will be staying."
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    Only_Music_2640. 1d ago That's an absolutely ridiculous demand for an ex to make.
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    CeramicSavage • 1d ago This is a power and control move. They want to see how far they can push you and how fast you'll cave.
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    Your daughter has been in direct contact with cats and gone to their house and nothing has happened. There is zero way two showers and two changes of clothes still affected the girlfriend.
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    MotherofCrowlings • 1d ago I find it hard to believe this is a genuine reaction given how many people have cats and are roaming about all willy nilly in shops and restaurants and movie theatres. If she was truly
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    that deathly allergic, she would have had so many bad reactions just going about daily life that allergy shots would have happened already.
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